FATHER TIME.
THE ABSENCE OF A FATHER OR FATHER FIGURE CAN CAUSE A PERSON TO WANDER AIMLESSLY. I SEE ALOT OF TIMES ON SOCIAL MEDIA, AND EVEN HEAR FATHERS DIRECTLY SAY, THAT THEY WANT TO GIVE THEIR CHILDREN ALL THE THINGS THEY NEVER HAD. I CAN UNDERSTAND THIS, TO A CERTAIN DEGREE. GROWING UP, LACKING, CAN SOMETIMES BRING ABOUT A ENVIOUS STREAK IN A YOUNG PERSON'S LIFE. LOOKING OVER THE FENCE, SO TO SPEAK. HOWEVER, NOTHING, AND I MEAN NOTHING AT ALL, CAN SUBSTITUTE FOR TIME. MANY FATHERS, ARE WILLING TO WORK HOURS UPON COUNTLESS HOURS, TO GET THE HOUSE, TO GET THE CAR, TO GET THE NEW GADGET, TO GET THE TOYS, ETC. THIS BECOMES HABITUAL. IT ALSO, BRINGS ABOUT A SENSE OF DETACHMENT IN THE FAMILY DYNAMIC. KIDS LEARN TO NOT HAVE A FATHER AROUND, AND FATHERS LEARN, HOW TO SUBSTITUTE ITEMS FOR TIME.
THE ONLY WAY, THAT I'VE SEEN THAT THIS PROCESS CAN WORK, IS IF THE MOTHER IS A SOLID BACKBONE IN THE FAMILY STRUCTURE. IF THE MOTHER IS NOT A PUSH OVER, THEN THIS DYNAMIC CAN ACTUALLY PRODUCE DECENT CHILDREN, HOWEVER, THERE IS STILL LACK OF CONNECTION TO THE FATHER, AND THIS HAS EFFECTS THAT WILL PRESENT ITSELF OVER TIME. THE IDEA, THAT IN THE ABSENCE OF TIME, POSSESSIONS WILL FILL THE VOID, IS A FAILED CONCEPT. WE ENCOUNTER PEOPLE EVERYDAY, THAT ARE LACKING SEVERELY, DUE TO GROWING UP INCORRECTLY, OR IN THE ABSENCE OF GUIDANCE, MOST IMPORTANTLY, THE FATHER. THIS PROBLEM IS EVEN MORE MAGNIFIED, WHEN BOTH PARENTS, ARE WORKING TWICE AS MUCH AND ARE ABSENT FROM THE CHILD'S LIFE. CHILDREN GROW UP, DISCONNECTED, FROM STRUCTURE, RULES, AND DISCIPLINE, DUE TO ABSENCE OF FATHER. NOW, THE DYNAMIC CAN CHANGE DRAMATICALLY WITH THE ABSENCE OF THE MOTHER, AS WELL, HOWEVER BEING A FATHER, I AM SPEAKING FROM A FATHER PERSPECTIVE.
MUCH LIKE IN THE REAL WORLD, YOU CAN'T THROW MONEY AT A PARTICULAR SITUATION AND EXPECT IT TO JUST GO AWAY. YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT. I WAS ONCE, TOLD BY A WOMAN, THAT PEOPLE ARE LOOKING AT PARENTING WRONG BECAUSE THEY SEE IT AS RAISING CHILDREN, BUT, THAT'S INCORRECT. WE ARE RAISING PEOPLE. THESE FRAGILE LITTLE SOULS, WILL ONE DAY BECOME ADULTS, THAT ROAM THE EARTH AND THEY NEED SOME ATTENTION THROUGHOUT EVERY PHASE OF THEIR LIVES. MATERIAL POSSESSIONS, DON'T PROVIDE THIS, NO MATTER WHAT YOU GREW UP EXPERIENCING. IN FACT, THE LACK OF MATERIAL POSSESSIONS CAN ACTUALLY TEACH VALUE AND APPRECIATION TO A CHILD. TWO THINGS WE ARE LACKING IN TODAY'S CULTURE AS A WHOLE. THERE'S ALSO A SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT OR ARROGANCE, THAT COMES ALONG WITH RECEIVING EVERY HEART'S DESIRE AS WELL. IT'S NOT APPLICABLE TO THE REAL WORLD, BECAUSE, THE LESSON OF EARNING OR APPRECIATING THE SMALL THINGS, BECOMES NON-EXISTENT.
WHEN YOU DECIDE TO PROPERLY SPEND TIME WITH YOUR CHILD, YOU ARE INVESTING IN THE LESSONS YOU TEACH YOUR LITTLE PERSON ABOUT HOW TO GROW UP THROUGH THE EYES OF EXPERIENCE. CHILDREN, DON'T LISTEN MOST TIMES, AND AT TIMES, ARE HARD HEADED ABOUT THINGS. THIS MAKES TIME VALUABLE, BECAUSE NOT ONLY ARE YOU SIMPLY DISTRIBUTING DISCIPLINE, BUT, YOU ARE EXPLAINING WHY AND ABLE TO HAVE TIME TO REITERATE THE LESSON. THE IDEA OF A MINI-YOU IS RIDICULOUS. YOU HONESTLY WANT ANOTHER VERSION OF YOU , WITH ALL YOUR PROBLEMS AND MISGIVINGS, RUNNING AROUND MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES OR WORSE? THIS IS WHY TIME IS CRUCIAL, BECAUSE IT COULD HAVE REMEDIED THE HOLES IN YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE AND ALSO HELPED YOU BECOME A MORE COMPLETE AND ADEPT PERSON. WOULDN'T YOU WANT TO DO THAT FOR YOUR CHILDREN?
SO IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN, OR ARE CONSIDERING HAVING CHILDREN, REMEMBER THAT THERE IS NO SUBSTITUTE FOR TIME. THE HISTORY OF THE BREAKDOWN OF THE AMERICAN FAMILY, CAN PLAINLY SHOW HOW IT HAS CHANGED SOCIETY IN SUCH A WAY, THAT IT HAS CAUSED A SORT OF RIPPLE EFFECT. NOW, INSTEAD OF THE ABSENTEE FATHER BEING DUE TO HIM BEING A SHIFTY PIECE OF SHIT, WE NOW HAVE THE ABSENTEE FATHER DUE TO HIM WANTING TO GIVE HIS KID EVERYTHING HE NEVER HAD. IN THE END, ALL YOUR KID WANTS, IS TIME, AND LOVE. EVERYTHING ELSE IS UNNECESSARY. STOP LIVING IN A WORLD OF ENVY, AND FOCUS ON YOUR CHILD. IF YOU ARE REALLY INTERESTED IN CHANGING THE WORLD.....THIS IS THE WAY. - 925