SHAME ON WHO?

The topic of slut shaming came up today. Ordinarily, I wouldn't even address the topic, and honestly I don't see the point of having this as a topic. I watched a clip, where a person, was upset because she was being categorized as a slut, because of who she was and how she dressed. Her reasoning was, that how she presented herself did not warrant a reaction of mistreatment as a slut. In other words, how she dresses and acts, shouldn't be assumed by men or women, that she is in fact a slut. This seems to be an extension of the rape scenarios, where just because a woman wears provocative or attractive clothing, that it does not cast the burden of rape on the victim. To which I agree with to a degree, no person male or female, has the right to rape anyone, period. That is the base thought really, rape is wrong. However, it is my personal opinion, that dressing provocatively draws unnecessary attention to those who would be the type to take advantage. I am not saying it is the victims fault, but, caution is not a new concept. For instance, if I go walking down the street with a shirt, that has a huge marijuana leaf on it, and I get hemmed up by the police, who's fault is that? Logic, points to me.

I am not excusing the rapist, by any stretch, because a rapist will rape regardless of clothing. So, it doesn't fall on the victim, but, you should still exhibit a certain level of common sense in any situation. Now, back to the original topic, I thought that slut shaming, was originally based upon the idea of not making a slut feel bad for being a slut, or a person who enjoys frequent sex. This has become such a prolific topic, that there has been a movement to alter society's reaction, thru political correctness. I don't care if a slut is a slut, personally, that is that person's personal business. However, attempting to change the social outlook of sluts per se, to me, is a bit of a waste. Why does it matter? If you enjoy frequent sex, regardless of whatever stipulations or situations, one might find themselves in, then why do you need to be accepted, or not shamed? You would have an easier time, changing your attitude, as opposed to changing society. We tend to forget that reputations go a long way.

Slut shaming is idiotic really, for those who feel the need to do it. It's also, useless to pine for change, amongst those who face it. If the case is to fight against the physical danger and harm of those who face slut shaming, then ok. However, if you're just tired of people pointing out that you're a slut, grow some thick skin and learn not to let people's misjudgment and alienation affect you. To top it all off, just because a person has the inclination to have sex frequently, doesn't make them a bad person. Some people eat out of the sheer joy of eating. Some people run for the sheer joy of running. Some people really like sex, and aren't keen on relationships. Casting a blanket cause on a serious subject like rape or abuse, to extend to words is kind of an exercise in victimization. Many actions go into, being called a slut, and if your actions are painting a certain picture of you, then you may want to reconsider your canvas.  However, if you give zero fucks, as they say, then do just that and go on about your life, but use common sense and be safe in the process.    -  925